How well are you sleeping in that bed of nails, are you fed up with it yet?
Its a common enough phrase. “you made your bed, now lie in it“. But what if that bed is a “bed of nails”?. Maybe you have seen one of these beds of nails and wondered how anyone could lie on it and expect to sleep restfully and easily. I can imagine one of these beds being used as a form of torture back in the old days and images of sleep deprived people springs to mind.
When it comes to addictions or habits that cause harm some people think well ” I have made my bed and now I must lie in it must’nt I?. Take smoking for example, some people believe its too late to break the habit that they have been doing automatically for years and it begins to be a case of them thinking ” Its too late for me to do anything about it and it probably is too hard for me to change”.
The truth is that just about anyone can “leave that bed of nails” and the only thing thats stopping them is their own mind playing tricks on them.. If you have tried to stop smoking before ask yourself how you felt when you decided to try to stop. What images and words were going through you mind when you thought about how it was going to feel to stop smoking?. Did you feel as though you were about to lose something, did you wonder about what you were going to do instead of smoking?. Perhaps you felt it was going to be hard to relax without smoking, maybe you imagined you were going to feel cranky and irritable?. .
The first thing a person needs to do when they decide to stop is to get their mind looking forward to being a smoke free non smoker. This simply means that instead of driving yourself mad with thoughts of panic and stress at the thought of stopping you begin to gently make a list in your mind listing all the reasons why doing this for yourself might just be the most rewarding and benefitting thing you will ever do for yourself. Gently remind yourself of reasons like.
- Stopping Smoking means I can look forward to getting rid of that nasty worrying cough
- Stopping Smoking means I will have much more energy now than I had when I smoked
- Stopping smoking means that I will be around much longer to take of my family, children and grandchildren
- Stopping Smoking means I will be a good role model for my children and my grandchildren
I cannot stress enough how it is so important to change how you talk to yourself when you want to change something. If you constantly focus on a sense of loss and pain then that is what you will always feel. If you begin to become aware of any sense of loss and pain and then quickly switch that thought to one of reward and gain then everything changes. In fact after a couple of times of switching how you feel about something it will become easy to make that rewarding change.
If you feel you would like to find out more about how easy it can be to STOP SMOKING we are offering a free of charge consultation. You can ask questions and decide for yourself if you would like our help in getting your mind to support you instead of sabotaging you. Feel free to call Elisabeth Clarke on 0834018552 and set up your free of charge consultation.
All the best for now